Dinner Date Tips for Beginners


  1. There is a subtle art to taking control of the date by deciding where you will go and yet allowing her to somehow be the leader. This means that you pick the location, but then ask her what time is best for her. Then, once at the restaurant you pick the table. Never allow the server or hostess to pick your table. YOU pick the table (preferably not in the middle of everything) and then you allow her to lead the way to the table.
  2. The restaurant that you want is one in which there the right balance of activity and fun mixed with the ability to hold a conversation and be intimate. You don’t want it to be so loud you can’t hear each other and you don’t want it so quiet that you can hear insects chirping.
  3. Do not get drunk. If you get drunk it can be disastrous since you may begin to act funny or silly. Instead, have two drinks and call it right there. Two is enough.
  4. It’s not about you it’s about her. This is the thought that you need to keep in the back of your mind the entire night.
  5. Do not text/call ANYONE for ANY reason while you are having dinner with her. This immediately tells her that you are, at the very least, self absorbed. And, worse, that you are disinterested in her. In fact, the only reason that you should even have your phone with you is so that you can connect with her if you happen to drive separately. However, you will visibly shut off your phone and let her know that you are doing this if you have your phone with you.
  6. Do make constant eye contact with her, especially when she is telling you about herself. Definitely do not break eye contact with her when other women are walking around in the periphery.
  7. If you drove separately then meet her at the entrance and open the door for her when she arrives at the restaurant. She will think you are amazing for doing this.
  8. If you drove together then try to get around to her side of the car to open the door for her if you can before she gets out. If she is getting out quickly then at least meet her as she gets out and try to finish shutting the door for her if possible.
  9. If you pick her up at her place then you need to get out of the car and go to meet her even if she is already walking towards you. Then, open the door for her when she gets in and gently close it when she is all the way in her seat.
  10. When walking to the table, be sure to allow her to lead. If you arrived ahead of time and you need to lead her to the table you may, but be sure to lead only up to the table and then allow her to approach the table first.
  11. Before you sit down pull her chair out for her and make sure that she is seated comfortably. She will be amazed that you are civilized.
  12. When ordering your drinks or dinner be sure to let her order first. This goes without saying, that you are buying. If you split the bill there will most likely be no second date.
  13. If you are thirsty and you need some more water brought to the table ask if she would like some more water first.
  14. If she gets up to go to the bathroom do not pull out your phone and start texting/calling. If she happens to see this she will get a little turned off at the least and at the worst she will begin to distrust your integrity.
  15. Do not talk overly much about yourself. Answer her questions politely and let her know whatever she wants to know about you. However, what you really want is to ask her questions about her. Ask her questions about her interests, where she is from, her family, and what she enjoys doing for fun. And then pay rapt attention to all of the answers she gives. You can take it a step further by asking questions about the answers she provides which also lets her know that you are paying attention and are interested in her.
  16. Do not EVER bring up or talk about your past relationships, or do not bring up anything of the sort (unless she asks you).
  17. Do not complain about things. This is not the time to complain about things going wrong in your life. Instead, keep it light and fun by talking about your hopes and dreams and things to look forward to in the near future.
  18. Compliment her and do it often. But, do not overdo it either. When you first see her you need to tell her how nice she looks. Additionally, you need to continue to compliment her occasionally throughout the evening.
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